Seriously considering digging up family tree dirt, for better or worse.

Why does it even matter if the kid isn't his? ? It would matter if this were a baby and they still had a chance to separate

It matters if it matters for him. This isn't for you to decide.

But what's done is done.

I hope you don't think this is some type of valid statement...I could justify a lot of cruel things by saying "what's done is done".

Did the dad change the kids' diapers? Tell them stores, take them to carnivals or ballgames or go to their plays and such? Did he love them as his own? That's what matters at this point.

You're trying to assert some definition of fatherhood, but the fact of the matter is that it starts with DNA.

But NPEs are a fundamental part of so many people's past, it's completely useless to be judgy about them at this point.

Slavery, rape, and murder were a fundamental part of peoples lives years ago as well. It's a little silly to be so judgy about past acts, ya know?

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