Thanks for this! I knew about animal rape but the comparison to porn is worthwhile. I have always noted the odd contradiction of men watching porn but simultaneously using derogatory words for the women (but not the men) in porn. I always thought that was such a strange disconnect like "you watch it- you PAY for it- but you act like she's lower than you for doing it?" It made NO sense but in that context it makes sense.

Throughout history there have been a number of male cult-like leaders claiming women like rape (50 Shades of Grey) as a mirror of this behavior and I'm not entirely sure what to think of it? 50 Shades of Grey disturbed the hell out of me. I came from an abusive household and everyone always told me I was doomed to end up in an abusive relationship- I have not luckily- but I have friends who I know repeatedly do end up in abusive relationships and I don't know how to get them out of that cycle. It bothers me to no end because (and I'm just being honest) it DOES seem like they are seeking it out when it happens over and over again. And I'm not trying to be like contradictory but genuinely wondering (just like with choking) why it gets repeated?

I am expecting a baby and I am horrified by the films for little girls. I was thinking about Beauty and the Beast (the 1990s one by Disney) and how fucking terrible the message is for little girls- I remember my abusive alcoholic dad loving that film and even as a little girl being terrified of it and realizing pretty young that the only reason he likes it is because it pretty much justifies his behavior and teaches little girls that they're obligated to "save" dysfunctional and abusive men (pretty much I think this becomes a reason a lot of women reach to these guys). I'll check out pinkpillfeminism but I am happy with my life- but I do feel like that option should be something women have introduced to them so they don't feel like they are obligated to put up with men if they don't want to.