Sex with my autistic partner of 6 years is infrequent and unfulfilling.

When we are having sex, it feels so.. mechanical. Like they are going through a checklist in their mind. They don’t pay attention to the way I respond. There is no reading of my body language. No deviation from the list. There is no connection. No emotional aspect to the sex at all.

I’m autistic too. Sex is hard when my partner doesn’t communicate verbally what they want.

Have you tried initiating the flirting at noon, and letting them know what kind of flirting? It could be a “checklist” of your design. We tend to like routine, I feel it would help a lot say you initiating at noon and carrying on for the rest of the day, for several days until it becomes a “thing” if that makes sense. I think you would need to lead it and guide them for them to start feeling comfortable doing that.

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