kind of feel hurt. That his desire to get his d* wet was more important...

Your feelings are valid. If you're hurt by his actions, then you're not overthinking things. The best thing to do is tell him how hurt you are. Then, both of you have to develop communication that is respectful when either party is not in the mood. If you're actually seeking advice on how to navigate these issues, maybe Google some resources. There are also podcasts with marriage counselors/therapists that are worth a listen. You're getting a range of comments from your husband is a rapist to you should accommodate him despite being sick. That's reddit for you. Becare what you 'ingest' on here.