I neither dismissed her problems nor defended the crazy person in this situation. If that’s how you chose to interpret what I said, then you are sorely mistaken.

I acknowledged the validity behind her concern multiple times in my response, including the part about how it was “probably better to be safe than sorry” and also the “possible, but seems a bit extreme” comment at the end.

I also called the dude who messaged her a “Creepy, bitter pervert with zero self-awareness.” What part of that implies that I think he’s a rational person or that his actions were justified in some way?

I think it’s a pretty safe assumption to make that most people would prefer not to live in a state of constant fear and paranoia, even if they have a semi-valid reason for doing so.

Saying that she shouldn’t assume the absolute worst of people wasn’t an attempt to dismiss her fears as illogical and illegitimate. It was an attempt to help lessen those fears.