I fully fully agree with what you say - in fact, as someone who's explored (and later rejected) bi-sexuality, and many...extreme fetishes, the internet has been invaluable.

But the internet - for queer folks, and various sexual "others" that don't fit into what society has deemed "normative" - is a work around to a reality that society doesn't accept them, and in many cases finds them morally repulsive. Workarounds - imho - aren't solutions. And the problem you're trying to solve is...acceptance of human sexuality. Right?

If we're trying to accept human sexuality, this work around for so many - becomes a step backwards for everyone, normative and not. (i'm just being a devil's advocate here and arguing from a perspective to flesh out my own thoughts - don't take this as being combative or dismissive to sexual/gender-others).

We're less likely - in a human way, that puts a person in a whole context, not the context of some compartmentalized screen-name on a website where you're anonymous, can easily lie about who you are and what you do, can per-calculate the words you speak, can duck conversation that isn't being directed to you, to confront sex at all. I notice that, however anecdotal, that my parents generation are more likely to hint or make sexual comments - even if it's in the form of some innuendo joke, than any of my peers will. That men or women older than me are much more likely to voice how attractive they think someone else is. There just seems to be this certain acceptance of humans as sexual beings (even if they're a bit more close minded on what they would assume is "deviancy"), while the same comments amongst my age group makes you seem.. crass, or ..inappropriate.

I think there's value - for all people - to confront our sexuality, to talk about it openly (even if passively), or to communally experience expressions of it in art/entertainment and have to look into each other's eyes afterwards and possibly talk about it, and that working around society's bigotry and repression just feeds into the whole repression/exploitation cycle. The further in the corners and shadows it's pushed - i think encourages sexuality into increasingly extreme realms. Openness, acceptance, understanding - not at an individual level but as a societal comfort, in some ways, frees us. And you can't do that without talking to flesh/blood humans.