Lots of red flags in this post and unfortunately they are all coming from your end. Maybe try to not control him so much. Who cares if he uses a dildo to pleasure himself? You have a jerk off schedule and then get upset when he can’t meet your schedule because he’s stressed out? I hate to tell you this but when you get older and have jobs, your schedule is going to go out the window. Lastly, you snooped through his private home? That is such a breach of trust. That alone would end a relationship for me.

Honestly, you sounds really young and lots of times first relationships don’t work out. Learn from some of the comments that people are leaving for you and in the future, try to lighten up a bit.