Should I (26/m) still be talking to my ex (23/f) 18months after break up. Together for 4 years.

Ok fair enough. :/

The first time I cheated I asked a good friend (a girl) about how I should end the relationship. I was a away for the weekend at a wedding at this time and we agreed I should do it to her face when I got home. But I then had sex with this girl before that. I did break it off when I got home. The second time was after a split and we starting seeing each other again but we never discussed that we were together. Nevertheless my friends and her thought we were dating so I 'cheated'. So I have been conflicted about this. I hate myself for it. But also feel as though I didn't really do anything wrong. I feel like I can't have an opinion on any form of cheating now. Which drives me nuts because I was always so strongly against any form of cheating or injustice in anyway , wether it be games or school or relationships. :(

Ive never met anyone open to an open realtionship. (or its never come up). Also I wouldn't want someone I'm seeing to be seeing some else. But I do know how much I struggle with monogamy.

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