That does sound rather anecdotal.
Could be DAE-thread worthy.
I haven't noticed this professionally.
Damn, I forgot what your line of work is. As in therapy where people share stuff with you? Or a business like environment where I could say "of course they will be more likely to act maturely?"
But perhpas when it comes to dating interactions, as they get older, women and men realize more and more what they like and what they won't tolerate in another person and themselves.
So perhaps that may come across as more stubborn.
"Come across" as stubborn? Or are they really more stubborn?
But I've also noticed that people dating in their 30s and 40s are quick to reject people they know they won't like, but also very quick to enter into serious committed relationships ("We met 3 weeks ago! He/She's the love of my life! We're engaged!") when they see someone they know they do like.
Haha, yeah. "Let's drop the vetting process".
Unfortunately I have more anecdata on people rushing into commited relationships when they are over 30 not because they know what they want in a partner, but because they are desperate. Hilarity ensues. They change their taste in music, change their hobbies, might even change their idea on having children.
So perhaps the women you take issue with, automatically sensed you weren't what they wanted and they didn't waste any time pretending to be interested?
It's not only women I am interested in romantically, but in your everyday bar setting, talking with friends, buddies and acquaintances.
Which is something a lot of 20 year old women do when pursued by men... "I'll grow to like him! ::5 years later:: "I want a divorce."
Yeah, it's maturity in immaturity. They are immature as in naive that "they can make it work", but mature as in "I know my weaknesses and try to act accordingly".
After a few years like you said, they realize "no, we cant make it work", split up and then decide that acting mature didn't help them and become exactly the kind of woman I described. Who is unapologetically impatient/demanding/overly dominant/insert immature trait here.