Should I give it a chance or leave?

"Baby steps" actually aren't necessary at all when it comes to setting boundaries, and tend to instead be a compromise, as in, I don't want to do what you are asking me to, but in order to appease you I will find a halfway solution where nobody is satisfied".

To be completely honest, I don't think that is something you have a right to regulate as a partner, and he has no right to decide whether or not you are NC. It doesn't have to be both of you or neither of you. Set those boundaries for you (reasonable requests are not to talk about you during conversations, not to talk on the phone at X time, like mealtimes for example)

It doesn't sound like he is wanting to limit contact with his mom. It is not a guarantee that he ever will be. It is your decision whether you setting your own boundaries will be enough to make the relationship worth keeping or if his lack of boundaries with her is a deal breaker for you, or something you are willing to gamble on changing in the future with no guarantee.

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