Should feminists go out of their way to address Men's issues?

You don't even know what patriarchy is. Guaranteed. But what you think in this regard doesn't matter. Feminism is based on the concept of patriarchy so you'd be asking us to ignore feminism to support men to support feminism. I'm not sure why you want a movement you think is wrong about men to support men. You don't want feminists to talk about men's issues, you want us to be mouthpieces for men's issues which is kind of insulting.

I don't want feminists to use men's issues as a vehicle for their own ideas about patriarchy. Some feminists probably do care about men's issues and truly believe those issues stem from the patriarchy-in my opinion that's not the case, but who knows, maybe I'm wrong- and I don't take issue with it if it's genuine. Admittedly though I just don't think many feminists care about mens issues enough to think that bringing up the patriarchy is an honest attempt at addressing the issue. Mind, I don't see feminists actively fighting for men in the first place nor do I expect anything I say here to make any sort of difference- but these are my truths and I'm going to voice them (although some of them I have changed my mind about.)

Ok, wait, I changed my mind. What do you think patriarchy is???? Because that would actually be a major reason if there was any evidence of this being a trend. And that's a big if.

As I understand it, a patriarchy is a society run by men in accordance with certain toxic "masculine" values like hypercompetitiveness and domination that promote hierarchies and a dog eat dog mentality. Which fuels bigotry and discrimination against those who aren't in your group. This type of society places a burden on men to be tough and strong and not show vulnerability and on women to be submissive and passive.

As men's share of power has decreased, life has become worse, in many ways, for men. The ideal male body has become more and more unattainable. As women earn more money they no longer depend on men and are able to choose men they find attractive. And the men they find attractive are strong, muscular men. Patriarchy didn't make them feel this way, biological imperatives did. Back when we were cavemen women went for the tallest guys with the biggest... Nothing has changed since that time.

I'm not saying women shouldn't be able to choose men they find attractive and should be dependent on men, I'm just saying patriarchy did not determine what women find attractive.

I'm not going to say that no part of women's desire for strong all around big men is attributable to patriarchal values, but we are not blank slates when we are born and then later shaped by society. Women and men are genetically different and are attracted to different traits. Men experience body image issues because they don't have those traits or don't believe they do. nurture plays a very significant role in human nature, but nature does as well and abolishing the patriarchy won't change nature.

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