I get it, I can totally relate! I had a hard home life. I was 16, we vibed. We smoked a lot and he was my comfort. He supported me and I supported him. Fast forward 9 years later-married three years. I am 25 and he’s 32, we have two children and I’m just realizing we may not be a good fit for eachother. I’m ALOT more mature than he is and I have a lot I want to do in life. Right now he is a very good caretaker and provider for our family. I am a stay at home mom [but not just a sit around taking care of the house stay at home mom but homeschooling the kids and paying the bills and worrying about the health of everyone in our family and all of the responsibilities] (I went to school for four years for nursing but stopped right before actual nursing school to have children because I wanted them so badly so we agreed he’d be the breadwinner for now). He’s a great father and very loving but so immature. He can’t handle much responsibility and flips out over the littlest things. I feel like I have three kids most of the time and it’s crazy to think sometimes it might be easier to struggle on my own with two kids. Now I have no advice as I’m in the same boat but your not alone and I think things work themselves out eventually. Not sure but I would DEFINITELY seek a professional which is my next step as well.