it pisses me off so much whenever i come down and my stepmom is just sitting on it, looking through my messages and everything. i get its for my safety but i still feel like i should have a life, more privacy. they also dont let me go to places like the mall or skate parks or rollercoaster parks, as they are "unsafe." they say they trust me, they just dont trust other people.

[TL;DR] parents are basically very strict, is this healthy? what can i do to be more accepting of it until i move out?

Edit; wow this blew up. i will say my parents are great, just not when it comes to emotional stablility and them being very strict. no, i cant change my password, when i tried she threatened to take my phone away. i guess i just have to deal with the rules. also i have an apple phone and cant download apps without their approval on their phone. also, i have not done anything to deserve this, im a good kid, its just been that rule since i got a phone at 13.