You're not exactly 20/20 on comprehending what was said it seems, like it struck a nerve and didn't register properly. Gender is irrelevant but orientation isn't - examples to paint a scenario, not recall reality.

It's not disrespectful to share how you feel, but it is disrespectful to disregard your friend's boundaries and especially if it's a recurring bounce-to-the-next situation. People shouldn't make a habit of developing crushes or imaginary scenarios with people that would normally not be considered partners due to their orientation.

I'd be livid if someone disregarded my orientation, which has happened several times, just for the delusional hope of something happening if they broke through boundaries.

And I never said the OP was being stalkerish, I said that the recurring issue of this type of situation on this subreddit often follows with people talking about how they do stalkerish shit, which is why it shouldn't be enabled.

Like one of the last ones I remember was of this girl talking about how she masturbates every night to her straight co-worker who is married, and was wondering if she should tell her to see what would happen.

Like yeah, not only get in trouble with HR, potentially violate a person's boundaries, potentially fuck with a person's marriage and disregard their orientation, but go all in and for sure affect your livelihood as well.