Oof there is a lot of testosterone in this thread, I wouldn't read too much into some of these comments. I'm a man myself so take this as such, but it seems to me most people have no idea what they're doing in general, and that is three times the case in dating, you will meet a sweet boy acting though, a psycho acting sweet and all sorts of craziness.

No one has any idea what we're doing, while at the same time assuming our counterpart is an omnicient seduction master. This leads to all sorts of misunderstandings.

Don't get me wrong, as a young woman on a dating app you get to deal with types of people I couldn't even imagine before I sat down on my big boobed blonde friends tinder and got to see what's on offer, but that should be obvious to sift through. Then you have all the others happy to even have a match with you and will say or do anything, pretending to be whatever you want just for a chance.

When you finally meet a decent enough guy and he hits you with a question like do you wanna be fuckbuddies, it could just be his insecurity talking, trying to act all though, but deep down he's scared shitless of you being a confident woman willing to come to his place for a quickie on your terms.

In addition to not knowing what we're doing, we also have no idea what we actually want. I hate clingy guys says the girl that's desperate for affection, I'm gonna play the field says the guy about to meet his wife.

My point is, nobody knows what we want or what we are doing, but when you meet "the right person" stressing over labels and other such trivial things become meaningless because who cares if you're strangers, fuckbuddies or best friends, since the most important part is spending time with that person. You gotta kiss a few frogs to find your prince, and if it's not working for you end it quickly and get it over with, then on to the next frog whenever he might hop by.