Small Rant Thread: February Week 2 Edition

Soooo my MIL is not only a terrible MIL, but she's straight up a terrible mother.

She is all talk about how much she loves her son (my husband) and I on social media and in person but she straight up hardly ever wants anything to do with us unless it's in her benefit. She is a single mom so I have (had) some sympathy for her, but she treats my husband like she owns him, as if she is entitled to his help and generosity. Now, my husband is a good son and will help whenever he can, but his mom expects him to drop everything in an instant to buy her things and do things for her all the time. And when he has a valid reason not to, she plays victim and whines about being a poor single mom.

In the 9 years of being with my now husband, not once has my MIL invited me/us over. In fact the first 4 years of dating, I was banned from being in the house at all, and if I was, even just in the door way, we would get yelled at. Now, I at least can come in the door way and wait for my husband to do whatever she needs him for, but we still have never shared a meal at her house (and apparently she's this amazing cook... At least she brags about it when I cook for her or if we are at a restaurant, she complains about the food and tells me how she could make it better. I literally have never tasted any cooking she's ever made).

When we got married my parents and her were doing our reception BBQ. It was super casual and such and my parents were willing to do the whole thing. However MIL insisted that she help and said she would help pay for half the meat and borrow the BBQ from her work. Anyway, two days before my mom asks her about her end of the bargain and she didn't get the BBQ and said she'd pay my mom for her half on the day of. So my parents managed to find enough BBQs, the reception happens, and MIL still hasn't paid my parents AND takes more than half the leftover meat home (steals it basically). Oh and did I mention she never have us a wedding gift? And any gift she heard of that came from my husbands dad's side (her ex) she told us was gambling money or that they feel bad for not being in your life growing up (which isn't true, we are closer to his Dads side than her because they actually want to spend time with us, and growing up MIL lied to my husband about his dad not showing up to get him on weekends... She would literally slam the door in his face or not be home when he arrived to get them and then tell my husband his dad didn't love him. So glad my husband is smarter than her bull.)

Now I'm pregnant. I'm sure at the end of the month and my baby shower was last weekend. Where was MIL? No where to be seen. Hours after the shower is over, she texts my husband to apologize (note she didn't say it directly to me) and says it's because she wasn't shovelled out from the storm the day before. Just FYI, the church where we had the shower is literally the next street over from her house... A ten minutes walk tops. She could have walked or soneobe world have picked her up. My husband was upset as he knows she had a bad habit of sleeping in until the afternoon (which he believes happened here) and she didn't want to see her ex husbands mother. So selfish...

Anyway, she lost babysitting rights. We both don't trust her.

/r/JUSTNOMIL Thread