My parents were both oddballs in their families. My dad's family was a military family full of drug and alcohol addiction, no education and a lot of lying, stealing and jail time. My mom's family was a Russian immigrant family that mostly for caught up in drugs and gangs. Also no education.
My parents moved several states away and went into hiding, got married, bought a house and raised my brother and I. They fell off everyone's radar on purpose. They have us a clean slate and sent me straight to college and grad school. My dad busted his ass at work and my mom kept everything else together and she's a genius with finances. As a result, my brother and I are nothing like our extended family members, we know about them but they don't know us or where we live. When we grew up, our parents gave us the option to contact them and I spoke with my cousins for a few days online before realizing I wanted nothing to do with them.
We are very different. They look significantly older than me even though we're around the same age because they've had rough lives surrounded by drugs and alcohol. They don't speak or think like me. They are a much lower sec and I'm the only person on both sides of the family with one degree, let alone two. I make 3x or more what they make. I live in a much nicer area on the other side of the country. I have different priorities. Our social lives are very different, also. I like ballet, serious relationships, having children through a stable marriage, learning and trying new things and science. They like drugs, parties and having children with men they don't know, several of my second cousins are fatherless. They live in trailers. They die young from cancers.
They have made multiple attempts to find me online after I faded on them 15 years ago. They only try to find me for money. They think I'm wealthy and I'm not, I simply make a lot more than they do, which isn't saying much. Then I overhear them calling me a spoiled bitch when I don't reply. I find the idea of me being spoiled very interesting since I buy all of my own things with the money I earn honestly from two great careers I love.
Tldr- they think I'm a snob and I think they're losers.