This led to about three days of NC before I gave in to speaking to him on the phone because he was making my mom and brother's lives hell. I told him I would no longer be in his wedding because I do not support how he treats my future stepmom who, despite loving Ndad, is a lovely person.
Good for you.
He said a lot of nasty things about, again, being selfish, ungrateful, a liar, manipulative (projecting, much?)
yupand how HE DIDN'T RAISE ME LIKE THIS.
I guess as soon as an ACoN isn't kissing feet they were "not raised like this" according to the N. In their mind, "not raised to not suck up to them."
Newsflash: ACon's weren't raised.
WHAT ABOUT HIM?
Nothing about him, that's not your job.
I hung up on him when he said I argue just like my mother and how I was just awful like her.
You disagreed with him so he felt he needed to insult you.
He also said that I have to get my own phone plan because he won't pay for mine anymore. Oh trust me, that was my plan first thing in the morning. The only reason I was still on his was because of the contract length.
Good. Change the number while you're at it and don't give him the new one. Keep it from people who could give it to him as well.
It has been about two months, maybe a little less, and Estepmom constantly tries to contact me. His Efamily is always telling me that my relationship with him is important and that I should contact him. They don't congratulate me on anything anymore (I'm about to graduate), they just say, "Wow, your dad would love to hear about this from you!" Screw you for enabling him his whole life. He showed up to my senior recital uninvited and just looked pathetic the whole time to garner attention from my many relatives in attendance.
Enabler, you got that right.
Luckily he did not once try to speak to me, and I acknowledged his presence with only glares.
Good for you. If I were you I would not invite him or enablers to the graduation, surround yourself with those you love and who won't go tattling to him.
Any encouragement that I am not crazy
You're not
or ungrateful,
You're not
that I am doing the correct thing,
Yes you are, you should put yourself first
and that I should continue NC
Yes
would be fantastic.
Here you go :)
Rationally, I know these things, but sometimes I find myself in weak moments starting to believe the N brainwashing about how horrible I am.
You're not.
Sorry for the novel!
No need :)