Typical week for sex, a morning quickie, an evening quickie, a very nice not-so-quick one night with lots of great head and her being rather dominant, and a really nice night last night where she let me eat her out for over 20 minutes and then she got an amazing PIV orgasm after. Love it when that happens. :)

But the bigger part was a long discussion we had before the sex last night, following an episode of South Park of all things. Don't remember how it started, but we got to talking about transgender people at her office and I said "have I got a South Park for you!"

We watched the South Park "Cissy" episode and were discussing after, then she got on to how very comfortable she is with her cis-gender identity and sexuality, but how 'despite being monogamous' she's not against the idea of having fun with another woman, which is something we had discussed before.

A very long (and very positive!) discussion ensued, where I reminded her that as per discussions from a few months ago and before, if she can find a willing partner she had my full support, as I'm absolutely going to support her if that's something she wants. As per previous discussions there needs to be full and complete disclosure, and informing me as soon as possible (must be no later than the next time she sees me). I have also done some research on swinging/hotwifing since then so I have some other ideas too.

Once in bed a much longer conversation ensued where we discussed, among other things, some boundaries and rules. Both of us had infidelity issues in our previous long-term relationships, she was cheated on as was I. However, I also had a positive hotwife experience (long before I knew that was a thing) in my previous marriage, before ultimately being betrayed, and would be quite open to that again. She has known about the previous hotwifery with my ex as well as the ultimate betrayal for many years but had taken a while to grasp the concept of hotwifery as a positive thing.

Anyway, she's still uncomfortable (read: she feels insecure) with ME doing anything extramarital. She has a belief that if I find somebody "better at sex" that I'll leave her for them. I reminded her that we have a very long and deep relationship, that I wouldn't trash that for sex. Considering that after 20 years of being together the sex keeps getting better we're not exactly sexually unsatisfied, but I can wait for her to get more comfortable with the idea.

She's keen on trying something herself, if she can find the right partner, and is open to not just a woman, but a man or a couple as I discovered (she even said 'swap' at one point). All that talk is what got her super horned up for the great sex that followed. :) I'm totally OK with that and again secure in our relationship, as long as the rules are followed.

So now the hard part... based on what I have read here and other subs we need to sit down completely sober and not in bed and discuss and write down the rules, then do some research and see if we can find a third. :)