I am intersex. I have largely passed as cis but not dyadic from the moment folks started using "he" for me, including clothes off. A huge part of my decision to have surgery was to stop being fetishized and, moreover, medicalized. (Trans guys typically were the worst about it tbh.) It's been literally my whole life. It just makes me super dysphoric and brings up a lot of bad memories. I know that's not anyone's intent but that's still the effect of bringing medical stuff into it. Also, remembering surviving a quack surgeon, nearly dying twice, and having to do almost all the cosmetic shit myself awake (paraprofessional background here), makes me really not want to talk about it. Oh and then the hospital staff member who used "curiosity" to try to assault me. And the surgeon who forced an unwanted painful medical exam on me for no reason. It was kind of a traumatic experience tbh. Really, my primary care doctor regularly forgets I had surgery and I just wish everyone else would and let me just enjoy my life and the parts I should have had from the get go if not for some biological hiccup.