Throwaway because I'm going to include a lot of my personal detail, which I don't want connected to my main account for obvious reasons.

I feel I have a lot to contribute to this discussion because mainly I am an Asian kid, growing up I was pretty introverted to the general public (will explain this further later on). So to start off my family immigrated when I was 13 to Scandinavia, where I obviously knew no one. So I was kind of forced to be a bit introverted in school, not like I didn't like hanging out with my friends but it was hard because I didn't really knew them that well and it was a completely different culture and language altogether.

So all I basically lost all my childhood friends and had to start from scratch. I did however had a group of friend of the same background to me but not from school but from a family friend and they introduced me to a lot of kids my age and we got along really well. The group of friends is really big and are scattered all over a couple of countries, so every once in a while we would meet up all together to just have fun and hangout. I would be part of the core group of guys that are always the center of attention here to which I didn't mind one bit and actually liked being. But in my school, I would never be invited to parties, clubs and nights out etc. Not that I wouldn't go but I just never got invited to them.

Anyways fast forward to now, I am a 24 y.o. working professional living in a major European city with a great night life. I don't go out much but I always go out with the office whenever there is a chance. I am currently seeing a girl I met on tinder, and also asked a girl out just this weekend that I met through my friend (His sister, another long story). So anyways what I'm trying to say is that I was introverted and shy not by choice, but because I didn't have the chance to show that I'm not.

Now I'm at a place/age where I just don't give a shit anymore and do as I please. I maybe late, in comparison to finding myself and figuring out who I am and just having confidence in myself. But I'm just doing my own thing.