Going through this now. Long, 5 year relationship that looking back, the guy was a total piece of shit, but I was far from perfect too. I spent a year and a half working myself, beginning with medication for my depression, weight loss, picking up new hobbies, learning how to be alone, exercising, travel, reaching out to friends and family more, feeling more secure in myself.

The result is that I am a much better person now than I was 2 years ago. I'm dating an incredible man who I wouldn't have deserved, and honestly, wouldn't have even pursued because he was so out of my league back then. It's so, so important to learn to love yourself before loving anyone else.