So I'm not an incel, more like an volcel mainly because I'm not interested in relationships right now. I stumbled on this sub after watching a video about incels.

I personally never had a Tinder account, but I did for 2 days have a OKCupid account a year or two ago but deleted it because I didn't (and still don't) feel like I'm ready for a relationship. As a profile photo I had a landscape photo, no humans on it. I did have a bio and answerd some of the questions on OKCupid (there is a scoring system to see how similar two persons are to encourage involving personality into matching)

As you may see from my profile I'm technically not a man. But I'm not out to anyone besides 3 people, so for all intents and purposes people see me as a man and that's also the gender I put on my OKCupid profile back than (mainly because I wasn't even out to myself at that point yet).

I got about 5 likes (I'm not sure exactly anymore) on that profile within those 2 days without a picture just a bio. For reasons unimportant to this comment, I didn't swipe anyone (i. e. I didn't "like" any profile) so I obviously also didn't have any conversations. But the point remains, not everyone is out for looks.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is, that Tinder may not be the right platform for you. Mainly because it's based on looks only even though most people while they do somewhat care about looks, they mainly look at personality. And another problem is that it reinforces your negative selfimage, which is bad for mental health. Try other platforms, like OKCupid for example.

And also make sure your mental health is good. In my opinion it's better to first get your own mental health straight (if you can afford it or your insurance pays for it, go to therapy) before committing to a a relationship. I know it's not easy, but it's worth it.