I mean you're not wrong, although the way you phrased this is easy to misunderstood. But I can agree that we women can struggle to understand just how destructive nagging is. I'm not saying their aren't worse things, just saying it causes deeper damage than it may appear to.

And I think that we do have an inclination to do it. My personal view is that it's a misplaced maternal instinct. When you're watching three toddlers, you do have to get on their case a lot, otherwise nobody is even going to get their socks on. I think that combined with being the weaker sex and wanting to control things. We can't physically be in control, so there's some impulse to control with words.

I think women get offended at the nagging topic because we feel some men won't actually get anything done without it. I'm not saying to never bring something up but to save it for the big things. And with those, one thing I work very hard on is staying it without emotion, but emphasizing that I trust him to fix it, that I need it done and I trust he will handle it. It's not always easy for me but it helps little by little.