Sorry for posting again, just need support. How did you guys move on and find peace without closure?

I just think bad of my ex, and that's perfectly 100% justifiable and ok. Resentment and being disgusted by evil and ignobility isn't "wrong," and it's nothing to feel guilty about.

I don't think one should "separate" a person from their behaviors, because one's regular behaviors show one's character and nature - and that consistent, persistent, unrepentant (or worse, faux repentant when cornered) bad behaviors make one a bad person, by definition.

A lot of people are in internal pain. Deep, traumatic, horrible memories haunt so many of us. Not everyone uses that as an excuse for cruelty - to use, manipulate, lie, bully, threaten, assault, accuse, and persecute without integrity.

I say, if you do that, with awareness and more than a couple times (really, more than once), you should be given the boot and shown the door.

I've given my ex 100,000 chances to be decent. I'm not giving her a 100,001st. I do not have to forgive, and I will not forgive her, any more than one should be expected to forgive one's rapist, for example.

It's ok to tell them to fuck off, and then shut the door on them. That's closure.

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