[Spoilers published] Reading through the books for the first time and hit a significant death. I knew it was coming and it still hit me hard.

Then, why wasn't Arya punished for "lying"? Why does Eddard never think about his youngest daughter with Joffrey's sword at her throat? I get that Sansa was scared, and she's only 11/12, so I can kind of forgive and forget the wolf thing. But then, it's Sansa who totally forgets.

Why did Sansa have to be so admiring of Joffrey and Cersei after they had Lady killed?

The very next Sansa chapter, she's back to thinking Joffrey is her prince charming, and Cersei is a true lady. She even goes back to hating her sister and thinking Arya is to blame for the whole thing, despite Joffrey nearly stabbing Arya to death. As if Arya is at fault for ruining everything by nearly dying. And we can't say she didn't know what was happening, because we know everything Sansa knows from her PoV. Every interaction she has vis-a-vis Cersei and Joffrey should be tainted, and yet she betrays jer family again so she can stay in KL with her 'beloved'.

In the books, she turns on a dime as soon as Joffrey offers up some kind words (in the show, he gives her a necklace). And it's back to marrying a king and having his babies like he didn't nearly kill her sister and actually had an innocent boy killed. The time and place can explain a lot, but not Sansa's lack of empathy for her sister, the direwolves or the butcher's boy. And, certainly not her stupidity in letting Cersei in on family business.

I just don't get what is admirable about Sansa. I'm happy to take downvotes but I'd prefer someone tell me what they admire about Sansa or why I'm wrong to think she shouldn't have fallen in love with Joffrey or cosied up to Cersei after the Lady thing.

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