Partially I do think that's true. I see that the most in the way trans women are allowed to be women until we speak up or advocate for ourselves and then we're told that we're acting like men or that our male socialization is giving us "entitlement to space." Even, and especially, when we are not acting any different than any other woman in the space. Or, most importantly, when we don't speak more often than any other person in the room.

I suppose the only reason I think this is an unsatisfactory explanation is because it isn't applied evenly. Womanhood for trans women is denied when we misbehave but the same has not generally been true for trans men. At least, insofar as I see it in feminist spaces. Manhood for trans men feels like it is denied when women want to claim their experiences.

Why are the toxic elements of manhood so quickly and readily applied to trans women but the toxic elements of manhood so readily dismissed for trans men? I think it honestly comes down to not viewing us as our genders. The most clear examples I see is in how spaces are advertised. E.g. "this is a space for women and trans women." Or, "this is a space for women but trans men are also welcome." The wording is very clear, I feel, that we are not truly seen as the gender we say we are.

What I find interesting is that this world view often gives an innocence to trans men that is never extended to trans women. I don't think cis people are even aware that they're doing it. And, frankly, I've seen trans people perpetuate this kind of thinking as well. It is often at the root of transmisogyny that I see.