Step daughter found out that we are TTC and she flipped out

It’s probably tied to you being a step mom, honestly. For whatever reason step mothers are expected to be these wholly selfless beings and never step on toes with wants and needs. But I’m guessing you’ve had your fair share of that over the years. Now she’s old enough that if she wants to say nasty things and mourn the loss of your non traditional family, she can vent to a therapist.

Before we had even started I lamented the opinions and feelings of others. “Will my baby be hated?” “Will others feel replaced?” A few supportive people advised they had similar families and that it was fine. They said yeah, it wasn’t like a “normal“ sibling relationship, but more like an aunt or uncle who has your back.

Honestly, a new sibling and concerns of being replaced is something a little kid worries over. Not a literal adult. It’s too bad she isn’t happy for you but I’m sure you, your husband, and plenty of others will be. Focus on them!

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