Well then the answer is no. You're not going on dates to find potential partners.
You don't go on dates to look for other people. You talk to people you find attractive, see if they are willing to date you, then date. Not date to look for other dates.
Yes there are. You can join groups where folks are looking to pair up with someone suitable. It's like a more localized or personal version of tinder.
Ok. Show me. Where are they? They're not on meetup.com prove your point here.
It is unfortunate that you have not found the right therapist for you yet. I don't really know your journey to make a judgment on that.
Honestly then, you shouldn't tell people to find a therapist. You make it sound like seeing a therapist will solve all your problems.
If you're actually 40, you've got enough time to put the effort in to finding someone you can spend your life with.
Oh. It's because I don't put enough effort to find someone. It's not society, it's me. It's not the fear of if I say something that might make her feel uncomfortable, she might #metoo me. Nope. It's all my fault. Nice gaslighting despite not knowing anything about me and my life but I'm not buying that.
By the way your saying things, it sounds like you have no problem finding relationship partners. Good for you. Here's some info in case you didn't know: there are a lot of people that other people don't find attractive, be it their social struggles albeit they are on the autism spectrum, their looks, or whatever. These people are written off as creeps. Imagine being considered a creep just for trying. And don't give me the vague "just don't be a creep response." If you want to help someone, elaborate on what their doing that is considered creepy. Saying "oh, you're being a creep" really hurts one's self esteem and will just make someone resent you more.
I get it. It comes so naturally for you that you have no idea what it's like to fight an uphill battle and you think it's easy enough for everyone to find someone so you just criticize people for giving up. Nice.