I had a super baffling experience over the weekend. I matched with a girl on Bumble a couple weeks ago, and she invited me to a Nine Inch Nails concert with her this past Friday. Not typically my music, but she isn't your typical Nine Inch Nails listener, and come to find out she doesn't really, but just has a fun tradition of seeing them anytime they are in her town.

We meet for drinks across the street from the venue before the show and grab a couple of drinks, and really hit it off well. Really warm hug to say hello, constant conversation, great eye contact, a little physical contact as well. I am paying for the drinks for the night since she got the tickets, so I paid the bill and we head over to the show. We get inside and find out seats, go grab a couple more drinks, all the while we are continuously talking and laughing, making more and more physical contact.

As the show is going on, our seats are way in the back, so it wasn't so loud that we couldn't keep talking, so we were going back and forth between fun topics and actually watching the bands on stage. About halfway through the show I can tell we are really hitting it off well, so I go in for a kiss, which she gladly accepts and we spend the rest of the show kissing, talking, laughing, listening to the bands, and she is leaning right into me the whole time.

After the show ends, we are definitely both pretty well inebriated, but still having a great time together, so I walk her home. We get to her place, she invites me in, we make out on her couch, she takes me into her room, and we have some fantastic sex. I mean, she was vocal, was telling me what she liked and how she liked it, it was some of the hottest sex I have ever had. After we finished and I dozed for a few minutes, I realized I needed to get home to take care of my dog, so I left her in her bed and went home.

Texted her the next day to tell her I had a great time, and offer to take her around the town like we had talked about the night before (she is relatively new in town), but she said she was too hungover. Left it at that for the day, texted her Sunday just to ask if she was feeling better, and to see if she was getting into anything fun for the day. It really wasn't a fish to try to get her to hang out with me, I was genuinely interested in what her plans were. I had plans of my own anyway. She says she is just going to be hanging out working on a puzzle. Then she says "Hey - I think you're a really good dude with a ton of awesome interests, but to be fully transparent with you, I'm not really feeling dating long term between us. Just figured it's best to be honest and not waste your time. Thanks for hanging with me Friday! That was really fun." I almost dropped my phone. Like, how does one go so quickly from having a great time on a first date, to saying I don't see dating long term, so why bother? I wasn't even close to looking that far down the road, I was just enjoying my time with her and getting to know her. Anyways, I left it there, asked her if there was anything I did that put her off, which she responded of course not. She just wasn't feeling it. Do a lot of women just go along with a date and then give it the full evaluation after? Because everything during the date pointed to a good connection, I had no reason to think twice about it.