Background: so intro, recently moved to a new country to work for a year (am 5 months into it), finished 6 years of architecture school where I didn't have too much free time, plus had shitty confidence and game. I mean it took me until Jan 2018 to have sex with a girl at 23, since then I had a short relationship with a girl, was great experience, tons of sex, and since moving here have only gone all the way with one tinder girl who I saw for about a month before we mutually decided there wasn't a spark, etc. (side note I'm bi and have hooked up with way more guys, yea its easier, but am only really romantically interested in women, also not really into the hook up ons scene)
Since I moved I've been dating more than I ever had in my life, good learning experiences but nothings come of it. Getting burnt out from all the ghosting, convos that go great and then the girl bails as soon as I ask to hang, setting up dates only to have them canceled at last minute, tons of first dates where we don't click or I get ghosted after having what seemed to me like a good time. So I deleted tinder for a bit and recently redownloaded and made a new profile.
Post Background Story: so I saw a girl I'd matched with back in Feb, we had probably the funnest tinder convo I'd had, we had tons of similar interests and our humor seemed to match. I ask her for a drink, we set a date up. Then she tells me shes recently out of a LTR and needs more time before dating. I say Ok no worries take your time, you know where to find me. She hits me up the following week suggesting to take me to a few local pubs (wow that was a quick heal time I think). We go out, its the best date I've had here, we meet for 5ish hours, great shared humor and interests seem to match really closely. She seems flirty, sitting close and casually touching me every now and then. Then after only 3-4 pints she kinda hits me out of the blue with 'i feel like I've gotten too drunk I think I really need to go' kinda weird but fine with me I've been there before. We leave the pub, she gives me a hug and kisses my cheek and we part ways. Besides that end it was an amazing date but I have a weird feeling about the end and then later she hits me with 'it was an amazing time and I enjoyed seeing you but just not ready to date, hope the city treats u well and I see u around sometime' I respond with no worries but suggest that there seemed to be a real connection and I'd be down to take things slow or just casual, no response to that and get unmatched
But she's popped into my head a decent amount since, really still the best date and connection I've had in a year. So I saw her again on my new Tinder, looks like shes back out there. I swiped right, do I wait around to see if we match again? I feel like as a guy my profile is super buried though. I did see her profile on couch surfing app a few weeks ago, last she was on it was 2 months ago though.
Should I wait and see if the Tinder gods match us up again? Or hit her up on facebook? I def don't wanna come across as a creep but if she's back in the dating game then would love to see her again after such a good connection
TL;DR matched and went on a date with a girl back in Feb, was great first connection and date but she was just out of a LTR and said she wasn't ready yet. Just saw her back on Tinder, should I wait to see if we match or reach out to her on FB? Or am I overthinking this whole thing and move along? Dating scene has just been so lame to me recently would love to just hang with someone I have a genuine connection with