The guy I've been seeing just dropped a mini bombshell on me. He's been actively trying to move to another state, and before we met he had sent out several applications, although he hasn't heard back from them. He felt obligated to let me know because things were starting to feel serious and he didn't want to surprise me by suddenly moving away. So instead he's going to...slowly move away? I'm so stunned I'm kind of stuck right now, and I don't believe in making emotional decisions anyway, but all I can think about is how love for us is off the table.

I was the one who messaged him, so I can't really be mad at him for starting this. I realize that there's the chance he doesn't get any job offers and so there's no reason for him to put his present life on hold and not date anyone. It just makes me feel like such a placeholder. Now I'm stuck in Sweeping Generalizations Land where all I can think about is "nobody wants my love." I guess he's just a summer fling now. We both deactivated our accounts independently after we connected, but now I'm wondering if I'm supposed to be looking for someone else who would offer more stability, and how to even have that conversation. "Hey since you're exploring other jobs, maybe I should be exploring other guys, but we keep hanging out because that's fun too." Why did he let me become emotionally attached? It seems kind of cruel.

My last boyfriend hated his job and got really depressed so I wouldn't wish that on anyone else. Thinking about it makes me tired. I told myself that this time I would try really really hard to find a guy who wouldn't make me cry. Anyone been in this position before?