Someone messaged me late September. We exchanged messages for a while and I stopped. He encouraged the correspondence a few days later - don't be a stranger, etc. I didn't write back until late October (about 3 weeks ago). Though we had a lot of philosophical conversations and just an overall amazing balance in conversation, he didn't seem like the standard hotstuff in any way, or who would potentially be my boyfriend. We went out for food on the first date, went to his place, smoked weed, hung out with his cats and called it a night. Next time he came over to my place, we really bonded. We both have a lot in common regarding interests in the occult, spirituality, eastern philosophy/medicine/practices, and turns out the bond meant a lot more to me than it did on the first date. We ended up going to third base on the second date and it was so perfect. He was such an amazing lover and it felt like nothing I've experienced before but everything I've wanted in the last 3 years. Definitely by now seemed like someone I can hang out with whenever we're both up for it, whatever this bond is. It feels very fluid and transparent.

Third date we hung out at this place a week ago, walk around by the river, eat foods, and get cozy at his place. The connection feels really spiritual, we experiment without saying with - Tantra, it's one of the most intimate and extreme ways that I've bonded with someone, it's like extended foreplay and spirit sex and can last several hours. The thing is this guy is polyamorous. I'd be fine with it if we have something ongoing, I'd be open to be part of that lifestyle as well. But he hasn't texted me about hanging out again when I asked. So this kinda sucks right now.