Straight(?) M/27 With Some Questions

I have a similar story to yours, and with close friends in the LGBTQ+ community, I too was skeptical about coming out prematurely or encroaching on "real gay people's" culture and so forth. But I have to be honest man, after finally telling my friends and co-workers, I felt like the weight of the world had been lifted off my back.

It's weird...since I'm in a committed relationship, I didn't think that it was that painfully important to voice my sexuality to people, especially since I'm not even available to date. I always thought it was just a small part of me and it was a private issue between me and my partner. But honestly, it felt unexpectedly fantastic to be so unapologetically myself and not care what anyone thinks for a change.

I guess I've always been self conscious on a level that I was unaware of. Maybe it was my upbringing, where I'm from, etc. Whatever the case, I haven't looked back. I think deep down I had some guilt, even if it was unconsciously, and just saying out loud to someone I trusted that I "wasn't a straight guy" felt so right. I can't speak for you, but it changed my life a lot and was well worth it.

Like you, I'm not 50/50..Not even close. I always just considered myself / identified as straight. But let's be honest. That just isn't accurate for me. I'm not necessary romantically attracted to guys, but there is something there. After coming out and beginning to identify as queer / not straight, I really do feel more much more comfortable in my skin. It's weird the difference it can make just being honest with yourself. I guess it was just always an unspoken thing, but acknowledging it and dealing with it was definitely healthy in my case.

And FYI, the community has been very accepting of me. I was worried, but everyone has been super kind. I went to pride this year for the first time and I actually teared up a little bit at one point. Just watching people be themselves and live their lives without fear of judgement was really uplifting.

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