i’ve lost attraction on finding out my crush was actually a man, and i’ve had a crush on someone i mistook as a man (that ended in me losing attraction the more i thought about her more and more, but once she told me she was a woman i regained attraction again).

it’s really just a thing of thinking of them as the gender you’re attracted to vs the gender you’re not. i’m not attracted to people with masculine bodies, so once i imagine them with masculine bodies i immediately lose interest. i’m not really sure what differentiates nonbinary people- and i’m saying this as a nonbinary person attracted to nonbinary people & women- i guess it’s a spectrum? i’d be romantic with a masc-presenting nonbinary person but not sexual, and that changes as the spectrum gets more femme.