It is not my intention to trivialize your experience of abuse and I am very sorry for your experience. Having said that, we should all help destigmatize genital and oral herpes though, and your description might paint a picture that make some people feel ashamed about their infection. I am absolutely sure that you didn’t have bad intentions and I am also not a generally „woke“ or overly critical person, but the way you phrased it, feeling the need to provide justification for how you got your HSV-2 infection might imply to some people that there is something morally wrong about having genital herpes (as your abuser had it), and you might have gotten it only because you got assaulted by this despicable person. Statistically every 5th sexually active adult is (often unknowingly) HSV-5 positive and even wearing condoms doesn’t prevent contagion because skin-on-skin-contact of thighs and testicles suffices for an infection. So, the spread of herpes is inevitable regardless of the nature of consent of the intercourse. Promiscuity and unprotected sex increases the likelihood of an infection obviously, but it’s nothing to be ashamed of and essentially not possible to entirely prevent from happening, even if you only have very few partners. It’s nevertheless a totally despicable act that someone infected you under these circumstances and I am very sorry that it happened. Again, not trying to dismiss the injustice done to you. Btw, oral and genital herpes do differ in terms of frequency and severity of outbreaks, also depending on your immune system. It’s also unlikely but possible that your husband has never been infected with herpes. Unlikely because an infected person has viruses on their skin pretty much constantly (called „viral shedding“), though during active outbreaks the number and hence contagiousness of the virus spikes. Also, some people never experience outbreaks despite being positive.