Same here regarding overall confidence. But don't underestimate the impact on your personality of conversing with extremely hot girls and having them flirt with you. Which brings me to this point: if they are not super hot, then why are you paying them to be with you? Feel free to move on until you find someone who clicks with you. In strip club etiquette, the way to do this is to say, "I'm sorry, but I'm waiting for someone else at the moment." Because you never say to a girl that she is not attractive, and you never ignore them or tell them to go away. Be polite, and they will respect what you are trying to say. She may not be your type, but she will be someone's type.
Other advice: - You don't have to sit at the stage and throw money at girls. You can sit back and just have a drink if you want. - If you do sit at the stage, you must tip. Don't be a douche. Tip all the girls at least a little, or else leave the stage. Have a good time there, and help others enjoy it too. - If you like a girl on stage, tip her and ask her to come see you after she's off stage. Don't make her guess; tell her. Some guys only want to tip $1s all night, others want dances. The girls will go to the ones who show interest and are direct. - Don't try to be a big shot. Just be yourself and be nice, funny, or whatever. Strippers don't necessarily want rappers and gangsters for friends. That's just dumb to think they do. - If a girl immediately asks for a dance, I turn her down immediately. I am there to spend money, but I don't want to get hustled. I'll get a dance from a girl who is willing to sit with me and have a drink with me first. Plus, getting a dance from someone I can connect with is 100x better than an impersonal dance from a hustler, even if she is hot. - Girls make money off the stage. Yeah, occasionally (depending on the club) girls can make hundreds of dollars on the main stage. Usually, they'll make a pittance up there. They are there to attract attention to the main event, off stage. So don't bother trying to look cool by tipping way too much. Save it for one-on-one. (Or two-on-one if you prefer.) - Is there touching? yes. Despite what the "rules" say, nearly every club allows some touching. Let the girl be the guide and don't overstep your boundaries. The guys who are most eager to take advantage of the girls are the ones who get shot down the fastest. No girl wants to dance for a creeper. Don't be that guy. Be respectful and follow her lead. - Compliments are always welcome. Compliment her looks even if you think she hears it all day. For real. But also compliment her dancing, her personality, whatever appeals to you. - Do not make excuses for being there. Don't feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. She works there on a regular basis. She knows why you are there, and is fine with it. - These girls work in a sexually oriented business, and so they have sex on their mind. Sex is a great topic of conversation. Another great topic is critiquing everyone else (tactfully). Don't put down others, but have fun pointing out what seems interesting. - Everyone likes good company. Everyone. The girls want your money, but they would rather get it from someone they enjoy than that weird guy with the beer belly who shows up every afternoon.
This is more than you bargained for, I'm sure. I'm just spouting off the top of my mind. I'll keep going if you want. I'm just trying to make it interesting.