sacrifice: 1. i don't want to sacrifice this career. i love it, even though it's making life a bit difficult. i know RPW is all about stay at home moms/choosing less demanding careers--- and i plan on adopting a more domestic life once i can go full freelance---but this skillset is just in my blood, it's been a hardcore passion ever since i was a kiddo.

minimizing expenses: 1. could sell my car, take transit instead. but nothing is close by, so commute to work would be 1-1.5 hr each way. somehow my gym would be 45 min away too when it's a 12-15 min drive. thought about cancelling my phone a few times. i'm planning on getting a homestay in one of the rooms to try out, that should really help in the fall.

1. parents: i think my partner and i would have to live separated. it would surely alleviate my stress, but he doesn't like the idea of us living with my mum (who has the space, and has offered). to be honest, i don't love the idea either, she isn't the easiest to live with. but the thought has tempted me many times, and i'd consider trying it if he was ok with it.

thanks for taking the time to talk with me, i appreciate it. i found the post about arguing and i think i just need to work on not being the 'ignition' if he sets off a 'spark' (and vice versa).