Stuck in the quit cycle

For starters, take some of that pressure off. Bullying yourself into quitting isn’t going to work. At some point you end up beating yourself down so much that you see no reason to quit, and you relapse. “Why should I quit if I’m a failure anyway?” Everyone has an inner critic and you need to stand up for yourself and tell yours to shut the f up.

Literally everyone on this planet is just doing the best they know. And 100% of us don’t know much. Even those people who seem to have it together have doubts and fears. The ones who look the most together are usually the ones with the biggest fears or problems hiding behind that confident image. Fear drives a lot of “success”.

And yes, a plan to help fill your sober time is a good idea. But think of yourself as having just been in a really bad car accident. Weed addiction messes up your brain (temporarily) and you need to heal it. You wouldn’t tell an accident victim “get up and go make friends or you’re never going to get better”. You’d help them take baby steps as they recovered.

And practically speaking, you have to go through the detox and go through it hard. That’s the only thing that will condition you to stop. You need to see weed for what it is. A nice buzz with a HUGE price tag that you will pay one way or another. Go through detox once, relapse. Go through it again, relapse. Go through it again, and I bet you’ll start to lose your taste for it. Speaking from experience.

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