I'm also an outsider. While I'm sure everyone appreciates your good intentions, I have to disagree.

These guys have missed out on some of the most important years of their lives. It's not as simple as something you accomplished last week versus this week (like the example you provided).

Being young and having a social life, which includes frequent (and pleasant) interactions with the opposite sex, pretty much lays the foundation for the rest of one's life. It's when proper social skills and confidence are acquired.

Can't speak for everybody, but I don't really see 40-year-olds live it up anymore unless they are Chads with a few millions in the bank. All they do is meet up with old friends and think back about the good old days; they talk about how Johnny discovered his favourite sex position when he was ploughing Deloris in the changing room after his college football team won the cup on his 18th birthday.

These guys experienced none of that. After a certain age it's becoming more and more certain they never will, and I think it's what the phrase "it's over" is partially based on (this, and the fact that women have increasingly ridiculous standards these days).

In my opinion, incels have every right to be jaded and bitter about the past. It's unproductive, yes, but let's be real. Things are unlikely to become better for them (pretty sure this goes for everyone, becoming older sucks).