Sunday dating thread, for advice and discussion.

And so now I just feel alone. I've not been in a relationship for... four years. And I've not slept with anyone in three. Now I have no time and no energy, and no real confidence to 'get out there' and find someone. And I'm afraid that I'll be alone for a long, long, long time.

Bro, I am sorry but I want to be blunt with you. So, I'll say this to you like I've told my guy friends who are single and lonely. Here goes:

It's on you, bro. You are the only one that can make yourself do something. Get off the computer and go do something. Hit the gym. Go for a run. Buy a video game console and play video games. Buy 4 dozens of donuts for your coworkers.

You want people to like you? Give them some treats here and there. Say hey and make small conversation about them. People LOVE to talk about themselves. They will like you if you listen to them blab about themselves. It's so easy!

I have been single for the past 7 yrs. Mostly because my studies took up most of my time and I LOVE having fun with friends. I love travelling. I have had girlfriends in past. But there are plenty of girls in the world. Getting laid isn't the HOLY GRAIL. You are not missing out much by getting laid. If you really think getting laid is the solution to your loneliness then there is something wrong with your mentality.

I want you to know that there are many ways to get rid of loneliness. I would buy you a beer and get you to do something with me if I live anywhere close to you.

Never had a party? Book a private booth or area at a popular bar that does music, beers, and pizza. People WILL LOVE that shit. You'll be that guy that your coworkers will remember who threw an awesome party on saturday or sunday.

Do something, bro. Who cares if she doesn't like you? She obviously doesn't care. Girls like guys that got games. Show your confidence by not caring about her. If she wonders why you don't give her attention, then that's how you'll get attention. She'll be jealous that people like to come to you.

Nowadays, my friends and I like bowl. They always text me if I want to do something. We go from places to places. You wanna be that guy that your friends texts? Do something for your friends. Show them that you are available by inviting them to places and things.

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