When I was in school, us wrestlers used to hold each other down on the mat when the coaches weren't around and tea bag one another, and we used to play this game called "Aireal Bomb" where you climbed up on the bathroom stall so your hands and feet were on top of the partitions on each side, and then you try and take a shit and hit the bowl down below without it landing on the floor or on the lip of the toilet, and everyone stood around and watched and laughed at poop coming out a another wrestler's asshole. The hockey team said we were a bunch of "fags", but I don't think anyone I grew up wrestling with turned out to be gay (at least openly). The "aireal Bomb" game was just funny, and the teabagging was more some sort of fucked up domination thing, like a display of being better and physically superior. Granted it was basically sexual assault, but we never saw it like that... it never crossed our minds that that's what it was.
Meanwhile, hockey team did a thing every year where they played "soggy muffin" after the team roster was made at the beginning of their season. They'd go to the locker room and they'd put a muffin on the bench and circle jerk on it and the last one to cum on the muffin had to eat it. Which us wrestlers thought was gay as fuck, but they said it wasn't; it was just something they did as a team building/camaraderie thing. But it seems pretty gay...
A few years ago, this kid on one of our high school football teams got arrested and charged with rape and sexual assault because he was allegedly shoving his finger up other kids' assholes in the shower after practice. What really happened was he was shoving his finger up kids' assholes after practice. Specifically the JV players. One of the kids told his parents and they went to the police. The kid that got arrested couldn't believe he was being arrested, and neither could most of the team, including other kids that got a finger shoved up their ass. Even the kid that got fingered that told hi parents couldn't figure out why they were making a big deal out of it, and wondering what the team would think of him now that his parents were getting all carried away over "nothing". To them, it wasn't sexual or gay, so how can it be rape or sexual assault? It's just a game where you don't let your guard down or you get a finger up your ass.
To me as an adult, it's sexual assault. You can't just run around shoving fingers up kids assholes, or sticking your balls in kids' mouths (I never did this, but I watched it happen and laughed), and jacking off on a muffin with your teammates and watching someone eat it still seems pretty fucking gay.
But it's weird how the values and ideas, and the way certain sub-cultures (such as a sports team, or especially a testosterone influenced sports team) can see things so differently from how outsiders would see that behavior... That they can take something that can be very much sexual assault and say it's not and believe it. Or simply do some stuff together that seems totally homosexual to an outsider and look at you with a straight face and insist there's nothing gay about it because they really don't see it as gay or assault.
And when you take this into consideration, it's a lot easier to see how groups of people in sports teams or fraternities or whatever, can twist the norms way out of whack and wind up carrying something way too far and not see how far things have progressed.
But even when the social rituals these groups use don't cross some line into sexual assault, a lot of it can be pretty fucking gay as hell in hindsight. But within that sub-culture, it's not at all. To them, there's nothing gay about eating the soggy muffin or standing around with ten other guys cheering on a dude pushing a turd out of his asshole for an audience.
Fucking weird shit...
but 4rlz I did fail this week a lot in training. Somehow I went from being a fairly proficient squatter to looking like a newborn calf in just a few months. At this point in time I've more or less forgotten how to squat and I'm changing my form on every set.