Thanks for this, unfortunately I have tried all the above. My ex gives her complete freedom and I don’t, so she’s never liked visiting me because I’m ‘mean’ and have too many rules etc. I’ve tried to parent from the sidelines but her bond with her mum is really strong and I’ve not been able to have any influence on her and ex won’t listen to me and just puts it all down to different parenting styles and that daughter is mature enough to make up her own mind what she wants.
So the choices are let go, or go through courts to force her to see me against her wishes, and I’m not willing to do the latter.
Me getting to a point where it doesn’t bother me and I focus on the other areas of my life is the process I’m going though, and it’s hard.