Surnames after marriage.. advice please

My partner is from Brazil, where I understand it's normal to keep your names as they were before marriage. (Please correct me if I'm wrong, you guys are the experts here)

Used to, not anymore.

I guess I just want some kind of outside opinions.. how rare is it in Brazil for a woman to change her name after marriage? How would you feel if your wife wanted to adopt your surnames? Is it weird or frowned upon?

Some people still do that, even some men also changed their names to add their SO's family, since nowadays is more socially accepted people don't car about adding another name. In the past, however there was an issue, if you had added this new last name and divorced your husband (knock on wood, be happy in your married life), the whole process to remove the foreign last name was long and troublesome, but things are not like that anymore, when you file for divorce you can at the same time remove the last name. Personally I wouldn't want my wife to take my family's name, but if she wants to do it there is nothing I can do to forbid her. Maybe it depends on how your husband sees his own family, maybe there has been some bad blood between him and them.

I would love for me and my partner to have the same family name after marriage but I also need to find out how Brazilians generally feel about this concept before I go ahead.

Ask him if he wants your name, some Spaniards do that.

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