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1st meet of a woman from a dating app last night. Went out for drinks.

When I come back there's another woman in my seat...

Date girl introduces us and told bitch shield we met on dating app and are out for a drink but its immediately apparent that the bitch shield has zero interest in talking to me and is forcing me out of the conversation.

"Bitch shield" is when the girl herself is stonewalling you and not amenable. (It's also a pretty dated term.)

This would be more of a "third wheel." Or a "cockblock."

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Your date let her friend take your seat. Which seems to indicate that the power dynamic between them in their established friendship could be imbalanced, since this girl apparently shoehorned her way into her date uninvited and Date Girl didn't enforce any boundaries, it seems.

However, what kind of seating was this? Were you at a table? Sitting at the bar?

Also, what kind of bar was this? A more high class place or low brow, hole in the wall place?

3

Anytime I try to add anything into the conversation she's super rude and just says "yeah okay... anyways" and goes back to talking to date girl.

What exactly were you saying, in response to what exactly from Third Wheel Girl (TWG)?

4

After 10ish minutes of this it's clear bitch shield isn't leaving and I'm really not included in this convo anymore.

So I said I was going to head out. Date girl acted surprised and physically grabbed my arm asking me not to leave and it seemed sincere, so I stayed for like 15 minutes more..

She literally grabbed you. That's on par with the kind of sign a girl gives when she will go home with you.

5

Finally I tried to force my way into the conversation to challenge something bitch shield said that was factually incorrect and she said "excuse me im still talking" and cuts me off. I get frustrated and just stood up and said im gonna go and so i walk out.

Let's be real here:

• This other girl, let's call her Third Wheel, was an intruder in the date.
• She was immature as fuuuuck. Rude and possibly bitter that her friend was on a date, based on how she was acting.
• The girl repeatedly showed STRONG interest within reason. Like she was going home with you if you kept your head on.
• You resorted to getting down to Third Wheel's level by trying to pick a verbal fight with her over whatever she was factually incorrect about. (Whether you intended it or not, that's what the effect would be when you contradict someone bluntly like that.)

You let Third Wheel rattle you and take you completely out of your game.

On the other hand, Date Girl didn't have good manners either. Possibly lacked a backbone with regard to Third Wheel.

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How long did this whole thing go on? It sounds like this all went down in 25 minutes or less. That's not long, if so. There were ways to deal with it.

A.) Find something to occupy yourself with temporarily. (The girl was clearly honed in on you. She chased you outside for fuck's sake.) Some combination of the following would have worked while she saw to her friend and finally saw her off.

• Don't know what kind of place it was, but leaving the table to circulate socially would have been a great way to keep your head. Chat up the staff. Go stand at the bar and talk to people. That sort of thing.
• Go play a bar game. Darts, pool, etc. If the bar had those, go play one for a bit.

The point is, there's more to do in this situation than stew in frustration and anger.

B ) Try to be nice to the Third Wheel. Like whatever she was complaining about, find a way to relate to it and be supportive. Might be a big ask though. But if you can rise up in such a say instead of falling to anger, these kinds of girls can be defused at times.

C.) I've been on dates like this. It often resulted in me coming together with the girl into a sort of teamwork kind of vibe where we work to solve the situation together so we can get laid.

Like take a second here and realize that this girl was into you: she was having her date interrupted as much as you were. This was a chance to connect with her on this shared experience of that. You unintentionally turned it into an adversarial thing between you and your date. Huge lost opportunity here.

7

This morning date girl sent me a message about how it was "weak of you to walk off pouting. I wish you would have stayed because I had fun!"

Honestly, if you have the patience for it, you could probably still get laid if you swallow your pride and apologize for dealing with the situation poorly.

Which you did. Date Girl was probably feeling bad about the situation also, but walking out on the date was a move that overshadowed all of what Third Wheel was doing.

If you do apologize, just state the obvious: you've never had someone interrupt a date like that, to where you're spending your time confused and looking at the back of some other girl's head while she complains about life or whatever she was on about. But take responsibility and say you shouldn't have walked out.

And then set up something in a place that's not so well trafficked with random people.