It's so sweet that Ron rectified his mistakes twice..

Sure. I guess I don't qualify it as emotional abuse and it pisses me off when she sets canaries at him as well as disregards his feelings as irrelevant earlier etc. etc.(without meaning to), but I didn't mean for it to get so heated and I apologize for that. It's totally okay to have your own view on that, and mine may be incorrect after all.

That sucks. As a little brother myself I can say I've been let off the hook on more than one occasion, but that seems to be borderline extreme. This sort of shit happening regularly is really bad, and I hope you're doing well now, and away from your mom.

Snape reminds me of a teacher I had who would bully me for not speaking out in class. I used to get good grades and knew the right answers but I was a mute till I was eight; even at home I would speak rarely, if at all, and only when I was happy, which wasn't the case in school.

So, despite having a perfect disciplinary record, she would still go on and berate me on the bus about how I was a disappointment yada yada, how I should start speaking up more, and then when i would put in an opinion, she would blast back with "Don't dare to talk back to me, you'll never amount to anything!'"

Also I had a friend in my society who was a girl, and people immediately start looking for suspicious things if a boy is friends with a girl. never mind that she was overweight genetically and hence bullied and i was underweight as well as an introvert, so we bonded over being outcasts. Her friends would tease her and random boys would tease her, but she had her own friends circle who would come to her defense and all.

Then one day she literally began picking on the girl too. Saying that she was a perfect student who shouldn't associate with degenerates like me. That was my tipping point and I told her that I was a nice student as well I just didn't like to talk to people who were rude like her. In hindsight that is probably what set her off, and she started shaking me by the shoulders and scolding me, after which I slapped her shoulder to make her stop. This after that meant...well, let's say that my stop arrived after four slaps, and she was just getting started. And this was in a bus full of kids.

So anyway, I get off, and the hag tells my mom a long and fabricated story about me talking back to her and then hitting her "unprovoked", ie I just hit her out of the blue. When I get home, my mom asks me what happened. And at that age, i genuinely thought I had done something wrong, because I was taught to never hit a teacher, so the fact that I did it in self-defence didn't seem like a justification to me. So I told her sobbing "I'm sorry, i hit her, i won't hit her again." My mom hit me a couple of times after that but my sister stepped in and said that lets not trouble him now, lets ask after he's lucid. By which point my friend, ie that girl, came over with her mom and her mom told mine that her daughter saw what had happened and it was the teacher's fault. After some time when my mom got all the facts and all, she apologized for hitting me, but I was still crying. My parents went to the principal and complained, and the teacher resigned after that.

There's a lot of other shit that happened at school after that, but I don't think my mom has ever hit me again after that. I guess it was a sort of shock to her and she re-thought the way her parents had brought her up and all a bit.

Of course, Snape also reminds me of myself as a kid, so I guess its complicated. But as a teacher, although he hasn't done as worse a thing, and I sort of get where he's coming from(stuck in a job he hates and all) he still rubs me the wrong way.

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