Taking baby steps... helping my spouse

I normally don't field questions like this on the forums as I am still in the process of transitioning myself (MtF, out to the wife for about 7 months about to start HRT). But, I am more than happy to help with this since I had the same feelings when I first outed myself to the woman that I love.

First, I would like to say thank you for being so supportive. If it weren't for my wife being my rock I don't know where I would be emotionally/Mentally.

As far as wigs go, find a costume shop in your area if there is one. You don't have to spend hundreds of dollars on a first wig, but find one that is natural colored and preferably can conceal their forehead, as this is a huge give away typically for those of us that have/had MPB. I got my first one for about $20 with bangs and it did a good job at making me passable.

Make-up; Here is where personal preference comes in mind. The number one thing I can recommend to a newly trans person "trying it out" is a good concealer. When I say good, I don't necessarily mean expensive, but one that will get the job done nicely. I use E.L.F. from target for a concealer as it is close enough to my skin tone to cover my 5 o'clock shadow after that and a good foundation. Foundations are the next thing, I use a couple of different ones, powder and liquid. I really like Urban Decays Naked foundation as it makes my skin moist and it is really close to my skin tone, I also use a random powder of my wifes that is lighter to highlight areas and play with shadows. Lipstick, keep it natural-esque looking (don't do fire engine red) and it won't call attention. Eye shadow and liner, you know the drills there I am sure. Masquera is the one thing that does a huge job at feminizing. Long pretty lashes look good on any woman.

If you need someone to talk to from the other perspective of things feel free to PM me, and if you want to chat up my wife you can PM me also and I will give her reddit link also.

Hope that helps a little

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