Teachers of Reddit, when can you tell if a student is going through depression or self-loathing? If so, what do you try to do to help?

I wanna play devils advocate here. Ive been struggling with some new depression lately, something that is new to me in my life. I specifically don't want to talk to people about it, and offers from strangers - genuine as they may be - just feels like a pity party, and is one primary reason I dont wanna talk about my depression. I just wish i could deal with it effectively on my own - but it is new to me and sometimes it gets tricky.

But ive never found comfort in knowing "someone wants to hear me blab about my problems"....just because i really don't want to. And I have some friends and family who have made their ears available to me... but i hate "complaining" to others, especially when its the same story over and over again.

Are there any tricks to handling this stuff solo? I don't self harm...just feels like a sinkhole of sadness very frequently lately

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