Sounds like you two need to have a Heart to Heart conversation! It also sounds like from what you are sharing is that he stopped courting you once you two were married, correct?

When I was young it was all about working hard and building a future, now it is all about loving my wife as Christ loves the church (people). Do I still like making money, sure, but it isn't my main priority. I can promise you if your husband was loving you the way he did while you both were dating this wouldn't be an issue with you, the friend thingy. It sounds more like your LOVE TANK has been empty for a long while and HE needs to know your LOVE LANGUAGES! Get the book The 5 love languages by Gary Chapman, read it together! A man thinks a woman needs things more than love, it is what we've been taught from generation to generation. So, first things first , get the book and have the talk!