Telling my bf i am ace.. prospect of breaking up

I see you already got some r/relationships advice, but just to add to that a bit. I think its important to do it personally (don't text) and to make it clear what you being ace means for you two's past and future. There is a lot of room for misunderstanding and talking about how you feel is important to clear things up.

If the compromises you both have to make in some way are too large, then your relationship won't last, but then again you are getting close to 2 years so don't worry too much.

I think you should say something along the lines of "I didn't enjoy sex itself but I enjoyed making you happy(/feel good).", atleast that would make me feel a little less shit about myself in that situation. ("i love you so much though and its not about you being the problem")

What worries will he have? what will change for you two? Will everything besides the frequency of sex change? cuddling, kissing, loving, you know? what kind of sexual contact are you okay with? (like vaginal, ass, blowjob, handjob, you can masturbate to seeing me naked, I don't know, just, like, clarify what no sex really means for his sexual pleasure i guess?) And tell him that he can really ask you anything that he is concerned with until he really understands you. Also take some time to think about important decisions, time grants wisdom or whatever.

Hope I am not too late with my reply and good luck :)

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